What does it mean to be rooted and grounded?

What if you looked outside of yourself most of your life for the security and safety you need?

Is your life on a constant merry go round or roller coaster where you feel your safety depends on how safe you feel in outside circumstances?

When you are looking for your tribe… your community….  where do you fit in?

What does being rooted and grounded really mean?   How do you feel safe within yourself when you really have not taken the journey to self love? What if you have not trusted yourself?

What if you have been violated as child and you have felt out of control of yourself for most of your life. The violation could be sexual abuse or physical abuse or just plain neglect.

When we think of neglect we think of starving or hungry children without a place for shelter or living in conditions that are not conducive to providing a safe environment for physical growth. But what about emotional growth? What if we were never given the tools to really feel secure within ourselves? Did you know that there are tools given to us by our parents and those that raised us to instill a sense of security and trust within ourselves? It comes first learning by example and if we have had parents who were never given the tools themselves it makes it impossible for them to give to us what they never had in the first place.

There is also “The Fear and Shut Down” When we look outside of ourselves for our safety and grounding we are giving our personal power away to the people outside of ourselves to provide the basic needs for us ~ much like infant children to parents. If we are not receiving from others or outside circumstances are rocky and unstable we shut down and are unable to receive. Many people are unable to receive anything wether it be physical, emotional or spiritual because of the fear of being rejected or hurt or neglected once again. Do you see why it is so important for us to become grounded and rooted in our own selves?

We know somehow internally that something is a miss but we don’t really know how to fix it.
We must learn a new skill set and incorporate it in our lives. It is a difficult journey to embark upon when we are adults, because when we are young we are like sponges and take all new information and skills and process them and incorporate them in a much deeper subconscious manner.

Have you heard the saying that you can’t teach an old dog new tricks?
Well I am here to bust that myth 🙂

Just because you did not receive what you needed as a child to live a rooted and grounded and love filled life … does not mean that you cannot learn and incorporate it now as an adult. As a matter of fact I think it is the most loving thing we can do for ourselves is to give to ourselves what we were never given as children. We can become the adult caregiver to our child self. You know that part of yourself that longs for the love, security and safety in being rooted and grounded. The ability to trust yourself and know that YOU will be there for YOU!

I have been on this journey and have looked inward to self and felt empty. I have felt the emptiness and vast space of feeling nothing inside. Where I looked within myself to feel secure and felt the nothing ness within me. I began to become very honest with myself and felt that emptiness and I realized that that emptiness was there because I had never cultivated the Power within myself. I realized then that all the people, places and things I had given my personal power to ~ I needed to take them back. I gave them something that did not belong to them and I needed them back to begin my journey to claim myself and my personal power and my ability to be grounded and rooted in myself.

I realized that everywhere I looked outside of myself to get my needs met that there was a real need to understand how to meet my needs within myself.

That is where my journey to self love began and still blossoms till this day!

Realizing that cultivating a relationship with myself is where all the beauty and empowerment lay. To really get to know myself in a very deep way and releasing the blame and expectation that others take care of me.

There is a saying that you will only be able to meet another as deeply as you have met yourself. This life is about connection and firstly connection with self and then connection with others. How will you connect with others if you have never fully connected with self? It is not possible. It is the time to be honest about our needs and meeting our needs.

I AM offering a 6 week interactive course called : Radical Self Love~ A six week interactive journey… This interactive course will take you to the journey to self love. To give you the knowledge and understanding of who it is you really are and walking in that authenticity. It will uncover the parts of you that you want to keep hidden for numerous reasons… wether it be shame or just not wanting to feel the pain because you do not know how to transmute that pain into joy. This is an affordable way to gain my coaching and teaching and healing. Or maybe you would like special attention to work one on one with me, where we can delve in deep and come out “Winning” in all areas of your life. Isn’t it time you decided to invest in yourself? Give yourself the LOVE you have been asking for all your life. The feeling of being rooted and secure in YOU!

In the meantime here are some very useful Root Chakra exercises to strengthen your connection with yourself and Mama Earth.

~Take a barefoot walk and feel the ground support you, feel the warm nurturing energy of the Earth always supporting you, always giving food and water and support.

~Sit on the floor then lay on your back and lift your knees to your chest allowing your lower back to feel the support of the earth.  Rock back and forth and once again feel the amazing grounding and supporting earth energy.

~Wear the Color Red

~Eat red foods such as apples, pomegranates, and earthy veggies like beets, red potatoes

~Wear Crystals or Use Crystals such as Jasper, Red Coral and Agate or if you would like a custom channeled jewelry piece to assist you in aligning, healing and manifesting… reach out as my passion is creating custom pieces.  You can take a look at my healing crystal jewelry website here:

Jacqueline Spaargaren, CCSH, CRMT, OLM
Jacqueline is an Empowerment Journey Life Coach and Teacher and a Priestess in Goddess Rites of Passage… Her soul mission is to provide a sacred space for you to explore those beliefs which no longer serve you and to assist in releasing those beliefs and incorporating a more authentic, empowered belief system, which will allow you to live the life YOU create. She teaches you how to tap into your creative power and show you how to be a deliberate creator ~ consciously creating the reality YOU want to see made manifest in your life.